Monday, July 23, 2007

I'm a mean mom...

Sorry I didn't post yesterday, by the time I went out to get the kids, got them home, fed, and bathed, I still had to go out for my run and then to the grocery store. then after that I had to take some time to read Harry Potter. The boys all had good weekends at their grandparents houses. I was thankful for the break!

Back to work today which was an absolute mad house! It was good to be back, but vacation was a good break from the chaos that is work.

So why am I a mean mom... well, Timmy has had a problem lately of being rough with his brother's. Well he had a couple incidents at camp today where a boy he knows teased him, so of course he came home and was a pain to Sammy. Well, after he shoved him for no reason I told him that bullys weren't welcome in my house and told him to go outside. He spent 45 minutes outside, knocking on the door, ringing the doorbell, and just generally going back and forth. It wasn't until he realized that he had to pee that he took it all seriously. I finally let him back in and told him to pee and get ready for bed. Then we had a long talk about what was bothering him and what was acceptable and what was unacceptable in my house.

I also told him that when daddy and Sammy plan a date to see the Simpson's movie and that if his behavior doesn't improve, he's not going. I really hate to do this to him, but I have to nip this behavior and disrespect in the bud. I can't wait until he's a teenager! This parenting thing is so hard!

Anyone find the manual yet???


JSmith5780 said...

Ah yeah, disrespect is becoming a HUGE problem in our house. Austin threw a complete fit when we picked him up from Nana's yesterday afternoon...throwing, kicking, screaming. Jeff just can't handle it and screams back. I try so hard to make Jeff realize that his screaming is only antagonating Austin and is going to make the situation worse not better. I told him he has to ignore Austin until he can calm down on his own. Meanwhile Austin continues to scream that he hates us, only wants Nana and Jeff can't deal AT ALL. I don't know if it's tied to the epilespy and the developmental delays, if it's tied to the medications or what. We go to see a new neuro today and we'll see what light he can shed on the topic. All I know is that I am tired of stepping between them, Jeff thinks I am minimizing his authority when in actuality he just doesn't get that screaming at Austin is making the situation worse and causing Austin to disrespect him more than he already is. I'm losing my mind! Wishing you luck with your situation.

EmmBee said...

LOL... You say..."I really hate to do this to him, but I have to nip this behavior and disrespect in the bud. I can't wait until he's a teenager! This parenting thing is so hard!"
Don't you know that right now, this is just TRAINING for when he becomes a teenager. THIS IS the easy part.
With Love from Auntie Mary

timsamsmom said...

Oh no no, you misunderstand, I don't mean I can't wait UNTIL he is a teenager... i mean I have to fix it now instead of trying to do it once he is a teenager.

Believe me, I have a feeling it won't get better until they move out!